On what makes a True Friend
I am blessed to have a handful of True Friends, some of whom I spent time with this weekend. As I reflected on what makes these relationships endure, the answers became clear.
A true friend is interested in you, not only in what you can do for them, but in YOU as a whole person. A true friend values your friendship, and will demonstrate this by creating time to spend with you. A true friendship is a two-way street. A true friend won't want to leave you feeling hurt. A true friend will be in tune with you enough to be proactive, and think things through to avoid conflict and misunderstanding. A true friend will care about your feelings, and when conflicts arise, which they invariably will, as we are all human, will care enough to be open to discussion, and be motivated to seek a mutually satisfying way to work things out.
If any of the above is missing, then you weren't really friends to begin with
True Friends WILL have ups and downs together, but will be able to look back on things and laugh. True friends support each other in their growth and development, celebrate each other's triumphs, and console each other through the rough patches. It's a relationship.
You can't go by what people say, you have to look at what they do.
Love is action. People can say a lot of pretty words, and some people can talk a great game, but those words are hollow, empty and meaningless unless they are followed up by action.
Sometimes the action required need only be a simple gesture. It's the little things that mean so much.
Sometimes you really want to be friends with someone, and so you try to be friends, and you think you're getting somewhere, but if you find yourself asking why is this happening, and that happening, or -worse-why does this KEEP happening? ,-after you have made a sincere effort to address it, then the bottom line is, you weren't really friends to begin with..
Focus on the people who appreciate you. Be a true friend to them. Love, nurture, do, and care. Create as much beauty and harmony in your own little corner of the world as you can.
I want to be a true friend to my friends. if you harbor any secret resentments against me for any reason, as I know that I am far from perfect, then by all means, talk to me about it so I can clean it up with you.
LorE Denizen out. Always happy to share what little I know with others.
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A true friend is interested in you, not only in what you can do for them, but in YOU as a whole person. A true friend values your friendship, and will demonstrate this by creating time to spend with you. A true friendship is a two-way street. A true friend won't want to leave you feeling hurt. A true friend will be in tune with you enough to be proactive, and think things through to avoid conflict and misunderstanding. A true friend will care about your feelings, and when conflicts arise, which they invariably will, as we are all human, will care enough to be open to discussion, and be motivated to seek a mutually satisfying way to work things out.
If any of the above is missing, then you weren't really friends to begin with
True Friends WILL have ups and downs together, but will be able to look back on things and laugh. True friends support each other in their growth and development, celebrate each other's triumphs, and console each other through the rough patches. It's a relationship.
You can't go by what people say, you have to look at what they do.
Love is action. People can say a lot of pretty words, and some people can talk a great game, but those words are hollow, empty and meaningless unless they are followed up by action.
Sometimes the action required need only be a simple gesture. It's the little things that mean so much.
Sometimes you really want to be friends with someone, and so you try to be friends, and you think you're getting somewhere, but if you find yourself asking why is this happening, and that happening, or -worse-why does this KEEP happening? ,-after you have made a sincere effort to address it, then the bottom line is, you weren't really friends to begin with..
Focus on the people who appreciate you. Be a true friend to them. Love, nurture, do, and care. Create as much beauty and harmony in your own little corner of the world as you can.
I want to be a true friend to my friends. if you harbor any secret resentments against me for any reason, as I know that I am far from perfect, then by all means, talk to me about it so I can clean it up with you.
LorE Denizen out. Always happy to share what little I know with others.
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